Handling Resentment
I’m not a pro at this. I’m not here to give advice. I’m just saying that sometimes I look at … Continue reading Handling Resentment
Tag: rape
Why “I’m Not a Rapist” Means Nothing
In Zen Buddhism, Ango is a three-month period of intensive study and practice. One aspect of Ango is that members … Continue reading Why “I’m Not a Rapist” Means Nothing
Commonality
I cannot thank you enough. For in reading my story, you have become part of it now, too. All survivors … Continue reading Commonality
Predatory Men
Some of my friends—women of color, white women, cis women, LGBTQ+—regard their single years as a time of liberation and … Continue reading Predatory Men
After the Rape
In at least ten states, what I survived might not legally be considered rape. The only thing that would help … Continue reading After the Rape
The Seventh Assault
CONTAINS TRIGGERING CONTENT We all want beautiful stories of survivors. We want to see people rise above cruelty with dignity. … Continue reading The Seventh Assault
What We Talk About When We Talk About Triggers
When survivors call a film “triggering,” we are paying it a compliment. Whether it’s a vet watching SAVING PRIVATE RYAN … Continue reading What We Talk About When We Talk About Triggers
Why the Rape Wasn’t Your Fault: An Open Letter
A lot of blog posts address men who believe rape is, at least in part, the responsibility of the victim—rather than … Continue reading Why the Rape Wasn’t Your Fault: An Open Letter
Disrupting Porn Fantasies: Midnights at the Electric Blue Angel
A new work written by Josh Hornbeck (Heavy Lay the Chains, The Beating of a Warrior’s Heart), Midnights at the … Continue reading Disrupting Porn Fantasies: Midnights at the Electric Blue Angel
