Reconnection

One morning I woke up, and my teeth were not clenched anymore. My face wasn’t twisted by nightmares. I had … Continue reading Reconnection

Healing, Memoir

Mourning

The first thing it makes space for is sorrow. As the rage and terror ebb away, the grief can overwhelm … Continue reading Mourning

Healing, Memoir

Remembrance

In many faith traditions, remembrance is a sacred act. A devotion to God. Buddhism in particular offers a definition of … Continue reading Remembrance

Healing, Memoir

Healing Through Dance

Because trauma is of the body, it must be healed through the body. I needed a safe space where I … Continue reading Healing Through Dance

Healing, Memoir

Why the Rape Wasn’t Your Fault: An Open Letter

A lot of blog posts address men who believe rape is, at least in part, the responsibility of the victim—rather than … Continue reading Why the Rape Wasn’t Your Fault: An Open Letter

Memoir, Musings, Seattle

When a City Reminds You of Those You’ve Lost

I had a best friend a few years back. A straight guy. Which maybe should have tipped me off. But … Continue reading When a City Reminds You of Those You’ve Lost

Uncategorized

When Did Gentle Become Weak?

Dave Eggers’ 2006 novel, What Is the What, opens with a violent robbery for which the narrator, a Sudanese refugee, … Continue reading When Did Gentle Become Weak?

Memoir